I'm a pastor. My
cousin is living in with another woman. She had a baby by artificial
insemination. Her partner adopted the baby. They want the baby to be
"christened." They want me to do the ceremony. How do I
deal with them? I'm thinking of the possibility for witnessing to
them and showing them from the Bible that their lifestyle is wrong.
How can I do this in a loving way?
Wow what a tough question concerning your cousin wanting you to
christen their baby. I assume she is not a true, born-again,
sold-out, dedicated disciple of Jesus Christ (or she would know
better). On one hand, one of my passions is having relationships
with my precious non-Christian, heathen, agnostic friends without
doing anything that would hinder my testimony. On the other hand, in
this case, you would be involving God in a Christian ceremony
(dedicating a child to Christ), but doing it for people who are in
blatant violation of His principles. Also, there would be an
appearance of evil problem where people on the fence, who do not
know your stand on homosexuality, will assume you are
"blessing" this arrangement with the ceremony.
though it might do damage to the relationship you have with your
cousin, I would vote for you to softly explain what you feel about
that lifestyle, and how it would be a violation of your core beliefs
to do something publicly.
Living Bible changed my life, and I find it very valuable with
non-Christians and young Christians because it does not talk in
religious terms and there is no doubt what it means. Here is a
passage from Romans 1 you might share with your cousin to give her a
little background on why you can't help her:
earliest times men have seen the earth and sky and all God made, and
have known of his existence and great eternal power. So they will
have no excuse when they stand before God at Judgment Day.
Yes, they knew about him all right, but they wouldn't admit it or
worship him or even thank him for all his daily care. And after a
while they began to think up silly ideas of what God was like and
what he wanted them to do. The result was that their foolish minds
became dark and confused. Claiming themselves to be wise without
God, they became utter fools instead. And then, instead of
worshipping the glorious, ever-living God, they took wood and stone
and made idols for themselves, carving them to look like mere birds
and animals and snakes and puny men.
God let them go ahead into every sort of sex sin, and do whatever
they wanted to--yes, vile and sinful things with each other's
bodies. Instead of believing what they knew was the truth about God,
they deliberately chose to believe lies. So they prayed to the
things God made, but wouldn't obey the blessed God who made these
things. That is why God let go of them and let them do all these
evil things, so that even their women turned against God's natural
plan for them and indulged in sex sin with each other. And the men,
instead of having normal sex relationships with women, burned with
lust for each other, men doing shameful things with other men and,
as a result, getting paid within their own souls with the penalty
they so richly deserved.
it was that when they gave God up and would not even acknowledge
him, God gave them up to doing everything their evil minds could
think of. Their lives became full of every kind of wickedness and
sin, of greed and hate, envy, murder, fighting, lying, bitterness,
and gossip. They were backbiters, haters of God, insolent, proud,
braggarts, always thinking of new ways of sinning and continually
being disobedient to their parents. They tried to misunderstand,
broke their promises, and were heartless--without pity. They were
fully aware of God's death penalty for these crimes, yet they went
right ahead and did them anyway and encouraged others to do them,
too. (Romans 1:20-32 Living)
not sure it could be stated any plainer. These are my thoughts for
your consideration. I'm honored you would reach out.