My fiance and I are to be married in December. We
have spoken about the call the Lord has made upon my life to become
a pastor. What should this mean to her as a pastor's wife? What is
her responsibility, if any? Is there anything I should know so as
not to impress upon her something she is not willing to do? Please
for your note about the call from the Lord about you being a pastor.
That is a good thing. I think the burden is on your fiancÚ to see
if she thinks that kind of lifestyle would be something she could
live with and enjoy. People in ministry are notoriously underpaid.
Oftentimes their evenings, weekends and other "family"
time are spent caring for the "sheep." She should talk to
all the other pastors' wives she can find in your community or
denomination and get stories from them as to what it will be like. I
would hate for her to go into this "blind." There is
nothing you can do to help her. This is her decision
entirely. After she does her research, then the two of you should
get together and discuss the findings. If you think she would not
be happy as a pastor's wife, then it would be up to you as to
whether to cancel the marriage or go be a plumber or harvest
pineapple or something. These are my thoughts for your
consideration. Let me know if you want to talk further.