Prenuptial Agreements

 by Chuck Snyder
 co-chaplain for the Seattle Mariners


Dear Chuck,
My mother is engaged to a man she loves very much. Unfortunately, he insists she sign a prenuptial agreement prior to marriage. She asked her minister as well as a few brothers and sisters in Christ who indicated that it is not the right thing to do. She told him that God would not bless the marriage since Christians are commanded to avoid taking one another to court (Matthew 18:15-17 and 1 Corinthians 6). But her fiancÚ insists that it has nothing to do with Christianity because it is a business matter separate from their relationship. What is your opinion?

Chuck's Response
Thanks for the note about your mother's friend wanting a prenuptial agreement. The Bible's reference in not taking a brother or sister to the world's courts does pertain to divorce or legal separation. But a prenuptial agreement is almost worse in my opinion, because what it is really doing is assuming there is a chance for divorce. The problem is, at the wedding altar, a couple swears before God and His angels that they will be faithful to their wife or husband until DEATH, in sickness or health, joy or sorrow, for richer or poorer, for better or worse. There is no CHANCE they would separate if they are true Christians and stand by their vows. Therefore, there would be no need for a prenuptial agreement if they valued God's principles at all. I would advise your mom to find another "friend." This is the type of man who would take her for all she's worth. I think she needs to RUN, RUN, RUN, RUN, RUN quickly from this relationship before she gets terribly hurt. Just some thoughts for your consideration. Let me know if you want to talk further.

Chuck Snyder


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